Tianshi Li

LLM agents require personal information for personalization in order to effectively act on users' behalf, but this raises privacy concerns that can discourage data sharing, limiting both the autonomy levels at which agents can operate and the effectiveness of personalization. Yet the expanded design space of agent autonomy also presents opportunities to shape these effects, which remain underexplored. We conducted a $3\times3$ between-subjects experiment ($N=450$) to study how agent autonomy level influences personalization's effects on users' privacy concerns, trust, and willingness to use, as well as the underlying psychological processes. We find that risk-contingent autonomy, where the agent delegates control back to users upon detecting potential privacy leakage, improves users' perceived control. This in turn attenuates personalization's adverse effects: privacy concerns rise less and trust declines less. Our results suggest that designing $\textbf{agent's autonomy}$ that supports $\textbf{human autonomy}$ (both perceived control and oversight effectiveness) helps users benefit from personalization without being deterred by growing privacy concerns. This positions aligning decision authority between users and agents ($\textbf{autonomy alignment}$) as an important opportunity and challenge for trustworthy human-agent interaction.

Aligning large language models (LLMs) with human privacy preferences requires capturing individuals' disclosure boundaries beyond general privacy norms. However, a gap remains in eliciting such nuanced preferences to evaluate alignment in realistic settings. We introduce CIDER, a dataset of 14,850 human annotations from 169 users, forming 1,650 contextual disclosure boundary sets across 60 interpersonal communication scenarios involving information sharing that violates privacy norms. Each boundary represents a real user's disclosure decisions over 9 sharing variants in a scenario, for a given communication role and AI-mediated condition. We formulate a task in which models predict a user's disclosure decision from historical boundaries, with varying levels of contextual information. Across 12 open and proprietary models, in-context personalization improves prediction accuracy by up to 11.41 percentage points using only 6 historical examples. Larger models such as GPT-5.4 (with medium reasoning effort) and Claude Sonnet 4.6 are better at leveraging semantic context to understand user-specific, context-dependent disclosure preferences for more accurate predictions, while smaller models tend to rely on structured heuristics based on disclosure granularity and identifiability. Personalization generally improves prediction accuracy, but the improvement is often accompanied by imbalanced shifts in false-positive and false-negative rates across models, with only Claude Sonnet 4.6 achieving balanced improvements in both. Our findings reveal both the promise and limitations of inference-time personalization for privacy preference modeling and position CIDER as a resource for advancing personalized privacy alignment.